Kindness is never a weakness

[Author’s Note: a repost from December 14, 2019.]

I was in line at Carrefour last night, a little focused watching How I Met Your Mother, when I suddenly overheard the cashier say something I didn’t clearly hear to the customer in front of me.

“Sorry, what is it?” the girl asked, looking away from her phone, obviously not hearing him for the first time, too.

“I just started work yesterday. Sorry, Ma’am,” the guy answered with a nervous look on his face; to which the girl replied, “No, it’s okay!” giving him a smile after.

All of a sudden, my focus went from Netflix to the cashier, trying to understand what is happening. Turns out the cashier did a mistake from his machine and is taking a little more time than usual until his colleague volunteered to fix the issue. He apologized to the woman in front of me one last time before she leaves then warmly greeted me after – as if he wasn’t nervous a few seconds before. We even exchanged more than a few thank you’s during the transaction but nonetheless, I was happy I was more patient during that short amount of time.

You see, the guy’s really nice. He was really polite and was doing his job pretty well. If the girl in front of me didn’t take the situation nicely at all, the guy might be bummed out to have had a bad experience on his second day.

Did his disclaimer help? Yes. It made people understand why it was taking more time. Should people try to be more understanding even if they didn’t know he only started work the other day? Still a big yes.

I hope we all remain kind with or without the disclaimer. People don’t walk around with signs on their head telling us what is happening to them. The stupid driver in front of you whom you said shouldn’t have been given a license might be someone who returned to driving after a traumatic incident. The emotional employee you think was crazy might be someone who found out that her husband of 36 years has been cheating on her. Or the zoned out waiter you have been calling for attention for might be someone who’s thinking of where he’ll get the money for his dad’s hospital bill this time. We do not know what people are going through. For all we know, people might have just lost a pet or a loved one.

Start choosing kindness with yourself first. Oftentimes, we are so kind to others that we forget to be kind to ourselves. We try to cheer friends up by telling good things like, “You can do it!” or “I believe in you!” but when we speak to our own selves, we bring ourselves down and continuously say, “You are not good enough.” Speak to yourself like a friend; treat yourself like a friend. Practice self-love until your tank is overflowing with love and kindness that you can finally extend it to others.

I know it takes compassion and strength to remain kind especially in stressful situations that it’s just easier to not be one. But at the end of the day, did it make you happy knowing that you’ve done something wrong to someone? When your heart has given its final beat and your bones have returned to dust, do you think the ones you left behind will remember how much money you made or how high you have achieved? No, of course not. They will remember how you made them feel. How much love you gave and how beautiful your heart is.

In this world where you can be anything, choose to be kind. Because kindness, no matter how many times it was taken for granted, is always worth it. If people take advantage of it, do not let it affect you because it isn’t and will never be your fault. It only shows a reflection of who they are. Being kind may seem like a vulnerability but it is never a weakness. How can you be weak when in fact, it takes so much strength to be truly kind?

I cannot assure you that the kindness you give out to the universe will come back to you. But tell me, if your heart is genuinely pure and kind, does it really matter?

Love, Amielle

29 thoughts on “Kindness is never a weakness

  1. This is an exceptional thought. It truly shows your character and how good you are as a person. Waah I loved it! Indeed kindness beautifies everything.

    There are some quotes I would like to share also:

    “Be kind, for whenever kindness becomes part of something, it beautifies it. Whenever it is taken from something, it leaves it tarnished.” Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him)

    “The best among you is the one who doesn’t harm others with his tongue and hands.” Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him)


  2. I love how you’ve taken up the example of a supermarket because honestly, customers in supermarkets can be so rude. I understand that some of them might be in a rush, but that doesn’t excuse downright bullying the employees. People tend to be so impatient, especially when they’re waiting in a line, that they sometimes forget that the cashier is only human. I have so much respect for cashiers, I think they tend to deal with a lot of verbal abuse (sadly). To be able to still remain friendly and professional and not let this affect the next customer is not something everyone can do.

    I love what you wrote about kindness – I totally agree! Great post, it really got me thinking x

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  3. This is a beautiful post. I feel like everyone should experience working a service job/any customer facing work because it’s humbling and has given me more patience when dealing with anyone in the service industry. Kindness is always always an option. :)

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  4. I’ll remind myself with this, specific to taking advantage:

    “Because kindness, no matter how many times it was taken for granted, is always worth it. If people take advantage of it, do not let it affect you because it isn’t and will never be your fault. It only shows a reflection of who they are.”

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  5. This is such a good post and so important. I used to work with a woman who took pride in how mean she was to others. I worried about her, one that she was going to get punched in the nose, but even more so that she would be the last straw for someone who was already at the end of their rope. How much better to be the one who saved that person from going over the edge. Kindness is key.

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    1. Oh gosh. Some people really think highly of themselves sometimes. But I hope he or she learns how to be kind this year. :) Happy New Year! Thanks for dropping by 💘


  6. People don’t walk around with signs on their head telling us what is happening to them. –LOVE THIS HUHU.
    Alam mo kanina umiihi ako ayan naiisip ko. Yung tipong hindi nila alam ano pinagdaanan mo. Teka, ibablog ko to eh pero ikuwento ko na muna sayo HAHAHA kasi may peklat akong bago sa may likod ng hita. Muntik na siya maging pigsa pero kagat lang ng langgam tapos naiisip ko kapag nagpeklat siya ng malala lalaitin ako ng mga tao in the future pero di nila alam na super nagkakaproblema ako sa infection nung time na yun keme keme haha ayun wala lang. Kinonek ko lang hahaha <3


  7. This is such a beautiful post and so true 💖 I often felt betrayed and have gone through hard experiences like bullying but I still am kind and myself. It’s hard to be sensitive and kind in this world but it’s the best way. This was such an inspiring story. A few kind words can definitely change everything and could even save some lives.

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  8. If I hadn’t taken my first (and only) trip to Barcelona in October 2019, I would have no idea what a carrefour is! Now I know, haha. They remind me a little of Whole Foods in the U.S. You can find almost anything in a carrefour!

    I always feel bad for the cashier when I can tell the person isn’t used to the register yet or there’s a holdup that causes a slight delay in the line. And then the person apologizes for the slowdown. I am not good at saying things spontaneously but I usually try to smile and say it’s ok or I don’t mind.


  9. Lovin’ it! Let’s choose to be kind. Reverse effect ng toxic people 😉 Sabi nga, you can attract who you are, let’s fill this world with kind, loving, sweet souls 💕

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  10. Hey, Amielle!

    It’s always nice to meet someone who values kindness as much as I do. Although imperfect, I also try my best to be more understanding and kind when dealing with people, including strangers, because as you said in your post, we don’t know what they are really going through in life at that particular point.

    Also, I know that I sometimes have bad days, too. And on those days, I would also appreciate a little more understanding and kindness from people around me. That would make things a bit more bearable, of course.

    So, I guess the golden rule applies here. If you want kindness from people, you might as well try to be kind. I think the problem, though, is that some expect to be treated with compassion without being compassionate when dealing with others. That sucks.



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